Do you ever find yourself using "but", "I can't", "I don't believe", "this is a struggle", "I don't deserve" or "I'm not a top performer"? Continually using negative language is self-destructive. "But" is a very bad habit that needs to be removed. A very simple mechanism will eliminate the negativity from your language. Abolishing the "but" from your vocabulary is a giant step towards success. You can reprogram yourself with a form of neural associative conditioning - a rubber band. To transform the ordinary rubber band into a life changing tool you need to wear it on your wrist and every time you catch yourself saying "but" or other disparaging words, you are going to give it a ping. It will hurt and it is suppose to! Anthony Robbins refers to this technique as, "scratching the record". Using your drive towards pleasure and away from pain, you will modify your behavior. The word "but" will soon be associated with pain, and you will develop a natural tendency to stay clear of it. This technique is incredibly effective and inexpensive. Try it. You have nothing to lose except some disparaging language, and everything to gain. After a relatively short time, sometimes a matter of days or weeks, your tendency to use damaging language will drop off and you can begin moving away from the destructive associated behavior. It is critical that you recognize the incredible power that language possesses and its connection to your behavior. If you continually describe yourself in negative terms, then ultimately you create a harmful vision of yourself, one that you believe. You will not be a top achiever if you carry around negative pictures of yourself. When you do start to gain awareness of your environment and gain traction on your personal and business development an interesting event occurs in the form of self-destructive behavior. You are challenging the paradigms that exist in your life. These paradigms are the beliefs you hold to be true - the ideas programmed into you as a young child. One of the most common views being, "money doesn't grow on trees". This phrase predisposes many to the belief that money is a scarce resource, when in reality, our ability to acquire money may be a limiting factor, but actual money is an abundant commodity. When you modify your performance, even though you are experiencing success, you introduce conflict and stress into your life. Your behavior has changed, causing it to be misaligned with what you believe and creating conflict with your core beliefs. Often this creates a self-destructive period where you will relapse. This switch back to old behavior is a natural response. The beliefs that you have accepted as true are very deep-seated. They will take some time to change. The behavior that is keeping you from sustaining achievement is habitual. For instance, many people try to go on a diet or change their eating habits. They are usually able to accomplish it for only a short time. After a brief interval, they revert to their old habits because they don't believe they can be or deserve to be, thin or healthy. Just as dieting or overcoming any habit is difficult, the change to high performance behavior is inherently challenging. To achieve high performance and results, you need to modify behavior by changing the habit. Until continuance of top performance behavior becomes habitual, you may run into trouble. Although habits are difficult to change, allowing your self the necessary time will make it possible. It is natural to regress and revert to type. If you are aware, you will be able to limit this reversion. When introducing a habit, you need to be sensitive to your behavior. During a period of change or adjustment, the rubber band technique can be an integral aid in limiting negative behavior. Destructive behavior or reversion to type comes from the fact that when you create high performance behavior you are in direct conflict with what you believe to be true. Modifying your behavior and beliefs is necessary so you can move on with transformational changes in your life. |
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