Do you quiz yourself about your relationship? Do you question yourself and your partner about all the aspects of the relationships and what is satisfying and what is not? Do you work on your relationship? To have a relationship that works, one has to work. Most of us take a relationship for granted once we reach a certain level of intimacy. We assume that we are regular partners. We forget to work on the rough edges and that dooms the relationship to our surprise.
Quiz yourself about the similarities and differences between both of you. Similarities will not hurt the relationship but differences will surely damage. There may be many differences between both of you. Your value systems may be different. Your political beliefs may be different. Your ideas about the future may be different. She/he might be looking forward to a childfree marriage where as you might be planning for a home full of children. Your finanicial planning may be different. One may believe in saving while other overspends. Will the joint account work?
Sometimes, the woman may be earning more than the man and the man may have to work on the male ego to happily go along. She may like to boss around but her partner may be more dominating. She will have to work on this. Unless both of you quiz about different aspects of the relationship and your personalities, it will not work. To make a relationship work for a long time, you will have to lay all the cards on the table and examine the hands carefully. Every relationship is meeting of two individuals who have to love each other accept each other and learn to live happily with each other. That requires work.
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